When I reached out to Wanjiru Kihusa, founder of Still A Mum, a non-profit organisation established in 2015 to support women and families dealing with miscarriages, stillbirth and infant loss, I was taken in by the passion and purpose for the work she does. Along with Sharon who accompanied her on Monday Special and who shared her deeply moving story, they shed light on a somewhat muted subject; infant loss.
It is estimated that in Africa, a staggering 4.2 million miscarriages are reported every year. Studies also show that 1 in 100 women will experience recurrent miscarriages (three or more successive miscarriages).
There are numerous reasons given for this, from complications that arise during birth to neglect at the hands of specialists.Whatever the case, it’s an unimaginable loss suffered and many women struggle to live with it.
There’s concerns over how the news is broken to them, with Wanjiru telling me that nurses in certain hospitals in Kenya very matter-of-factly relay the news that one’s little angel is no more. On top of that, there’s no psycho-social support offered in these hospitals so a mother is left to deal with the loss the best way she knows how. This is unfair and shouldn’t be the case.
Can we all rise and stand with these women? Stand with their partners and their support groups to offer our encouragement and let them know they are still mums?
I will be hosting Wanjiru on my Twitter chat this evening, September 8th, from 6 pm. If you or someone you know has suffered this loss, join our conversation.
I’m I A Mother?
(Julie Boyer Smith)
I’m I a mother?
I remember every moment of those nine long months.
I remember every kick inside me.
I remember the hopes and plans and dreams.
I remember the love.
Yes, I must be a mother!
Yet, now I see an empty crib.
I see all the rattles and toys packed away
I see the booties and sleepers that were
I see the emptiness.
Am I still a mother?
I long to hear my baby cry.
I yearn to feel him nursing at my breast.
I think of what could have been but will never be.
I pray but do not understand.
He was beautiful.
But now he’s with the Lord.
I miss you Joshua.